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Love the unlovely.

Today a homeless man got on my tube carriage, he was old, dirty and smelly obviously sleeping rough and using to tube to keep warm. He seemed to be angry cussing and swearing at people some aggressively if they reacted to his being there. “Don’t you dare move or I’ll ****ing kill you” and other such delights. People got up and moved, covered their noses and his anger grew. He eventually sat next to me and I just carried on reading my book after a while the majority had moved as far away as possible and it was me and him but people were watching intently. You could see by their expressions that they could not understand why I carried on sitting there. After about a minute he said to me “you couldn’t lend me a fag could you” I said I didn’t smoke but if I did I would give him one. He smiled and I smiled and he said I know you would! This angry man wasn’t angry with me because I had accepted him as he was. He talked and we laughed and it was a great moment of connection. I looked back down the carriage and people were still watching with their noses covered, personally I had forgotten the smell. When it came to my stop I wished him well and he wished me a merry Christmas his anger gone because I believe he felt accepted.

Walls.

Found this and loved it on weird hippy thanks to Lewis for letting me add it.

A little something i wrote whilst sitting in a church service on Sunday

Why these walls?

Who are they here for?

Our benefit?

Do they provide comfort?

Do they keep others at bay?

These walls, banners, lights

Safety!

Yet you are not safe

You break down walls

Deciding if boredom causes evil.

This was a title I wrote on at Helium, it is an interesting subject and worth thinking about, why not have a read and leave your own thoughts in the comments here.

For the article click here.

History Maker

History Maker. <P>

I will always remember the day the Berlin Wall came down. Watching the news and feeling the excitement and emotion well up in me, as if I was part of it. I was amazed at how easy it was destroyed and wondered why it had not happened years before. <P>

Evoking the senses 1.

How many of the senses do you use in your teaching and worship? One may be two but what effect would it have if you used all five, smell, touch, sight, sound and taste. <P>Supermarkets have for a long time known the power of smells, in-house bakeries to entice you to buy. The smell of fresh coffee is said to help sell your house. Smell has the power to evoke memories and change our emotions. Perhaps their is more than meets the eye in the high church traditions of using insense and candles. Designer smells for our homes are developing and growing in choice almost weekly with seasonal variations to help create an ambiance our hall way smelt of mulled wine over christmas which seemed completely out of place when the decorations were taken down.

Get wet for Schools

 

The system needs to be challenged.

Having worked in North London within some of the more deprived council estates as a detached youth worker for the past 7 years, I have seen first hand and come to greatly appreciate the difficulties that many young people face on a daily basis. Unemployment, family break down, violence and crime are all part of daily living and all contributing factures to the very low levels of self esteem, confidence, achievement and motivation the majority possess. The pressures many young people feel to conform in a particular way to the expectations of education, the authorities, families and the wider community, is intense and often too difficult to deal with, turning them away from normal socially expectable behaviour to irrational thinking, crime and quite often violence and anger.
Many are labelled as trouble, no good or just untouchable. How do we expect things to change when nobody really wants to take the challenge of working with these groups? Unfortunately this is so much so that local authorities have started to pull out by making large cuts in resources, leaving the large weight of responsibility on the shoulders of the voluntary sector who now have the task of tackling these issues with often little resource and support. It is important that we rethink our approach to the situation we witness in the media and the rising statistics we are faced with. No longer can we be resting on old ideas and formulae, but instead we need to make sure that we provide the right levels of support for these youngsters so that the transition into adulthood is less fraught and troublesome. Young people are creative dynamic people so let’s match that with creative dynamic solutions that individual’s can engage with, receiving the much needed direction and encouragement. The System needs to be challenged and we need to begin to think creatively - looking outside the box. There are two main core values we need to consider and put in place when approaching effective youth work or challenging youth issues. We not only need to consider carefully the individual relationships we form with young people but also those between young people and the wider community. Young people need to be built up and encouraged not put down and written off. At Prospex we base our work on these two core values strong relationships and time spent Time spent is extremely important where young people are concerned especially in these confusing developmental years. Frequently we spend less time talking face-to-face in this age of the text message and email. Meal times at home have all too often become places where members of the family pass by and spend little or no time in contact with each other. This needs to change; we need to be encouraging time spent. As a foundation to our work, we spend as much time as we possibly can sitting alongside young people, talking to them, getting to know where they are coming from and gaining an understanding of their situations. Through this we are able to develop strong relationships (our second core value), build on trust, continuity and consistency, all elements that are new to many. We then have an opportunity to know in depth what the needs are and address them effectively through community-based projects, encouraging confidence and a sense of self belief and worth. We have also realised the importance of supporting the parents and have therefore set up support networks to engage meeting this need. We are now spending more and more time in the family home getting to know the situations within the family dynamics, supporting and empowering parents to do the best that they can. Panorama has successfully highlighted the growing concern surrounding the way in which we are currently approaching the issues surrounding young people. If we really want to see things change and try to create a drop in the worrying crime statistics we read about, we have to replace and re-learn the value of individuals, implementing the right resources and support for the effective, creative and motivating youth work that is beginning to hit our streets but so often is unseen.

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